If you’re like me, you probably have a certain type of man you’re typically attracted to. But if we ever find ourselves in a dating rut after chasing the same types of guys, relationship expert and life coach, Andrea Syrtash, challenges us to step outside of our comfort zone to find love.
In her book, He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing), Syrtash encourages us to break our current dating patterns and be open to meeting men who aren’t our usual types. She says some women tend to attract the same type of men, even though it never seems to work out.
For example, if I only ever date men 6’0 or taller, I shouldn’t dismiss a man just because he’s a few inches shy of my height requirement. He may have other great qualities that trump his physical appearance. If you’re shy and prefer only to date outgoing men, you may never realize that his reserved nature can actually help you come out of your shell. It’s very easy to quickly judge a man and deem him undateable. But next time you’re tempted to do so, consider giving him a chance—dating is about taking smart risks.
We can revamp our love lives by throwing out our normal dating rules and starting fresh. This isn’t about lowering our standards, it’s about expanding our horizons. We’re entitled to have our dating deal breakers, but our lists shouldn’t be too long. Syrtash suggests listing five must-haves and can’t-stands. She cautions that having too many must-haves can cause us to close ourselves off to someone who could’ve been a good match.
We must remember, our perfect match may not be who we envisioned for ourselves, but they may be just what we never knew we needed.
Are you ready to step outside of your comfort zone?
Pick up a copy of Andrea Syrtash’s book, He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing):
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